pmb: (Default)
[personal profile] pmb
So, a while back, a friend said that she was having a tough time at work, and I responded:
I'm pretty sure that most people's relationship to work is an abusive one. Things like "work doesn't like it if I go out, so I can't be friends with you any more" and "work was bad for a long time, but yesterday it was good, so I think it's changed and we've made progress in our relationship" and "it's not work, it's me" and "if I just loved work more and was better then it wouldn't be so mean to me" etc.
I have since then gotten more people than I am comfortable with privately telling me that my analogy is exactly accurate.

Yowza. This sucks, and is indicative of an epidemic. But why is it true? Is it because we are all working for someone other than ourselves, and that the feedback loops are screwed up? As John Allen Paulos notes, regression to the mean implies that after being praised for a good job we will probably do worse, and after being punished for a bad job we will do better. Does this mean that every innumerate organization that tries to manage people will tend to punish but not praise, because punishment is proven to work, while praise merely allows people to fail?

Or is it something deeper? Is it because, among most of the people I know, the whole food/shelter/survival thing is taken care of, and so we've moved to a higher level in the hierarchy of needs, but the tools we used to just blow right past level 2 actively work against us getting through 3 and 4 up to 5? Work doesn't seem to inspire community, love, or self-esteem among its participants, as a matter of fact, it seems to do just the opposite. In many workplaces you will find people who harbor tiny petty grudges and nurse them throughout the day as they semi-diligently work at a job they hate and then their boss tells them that their most recent work was crap.

It doesn't have to be that way. It seems like modern "scientific management" techniques that MBAs are taught generally stem from a need to raise the floor and make sure everyone is doing a part. If we let people be self-motivated and let them do their own thing (which they nominally do as members of modern society, but this whole abusive relationship thing gets in the way) then I'm pretty sure the slackers will completely slack, but the motivated people will produce more than you previously imagined. I wonder if the area under the curve will go up or down? In computer stuff, the area under the curve seems to go up - see Google, etc.. In tax-form processing, it might go down. Because who the hell gives a damn about tax-form processing?

I like to hope that the human psyche is such that, if people are free, they will do better. Then all that is required to turn this situation around is for organizations to give their employees maximum freedom, not turn into fascists internally, and watch their competitors lose. Whole Foods seems to have adopted this approach, and Visa apparently used to be this way as well. I do wonder, however. Is the problem that people who are in a screwed up situation still do okay work, because they are still striving for self-esteem even though they are in an environment working against that? In my copious spare time, perhaps I should check out D.L. Rosenhan, “On Being Sane in Insane Places,” pp. 205-213 in Ronald Weitzer, ed., Deviance and Social Control.. I looked on the web for what I thought was a [livejournal.com profile] craig_r_meyer quote that went something like "there's nothing okay with being sane in a fucked up environment", but I only found that article referenced again and again.

Is your work abusive? How? Why are you still there? Can you even imagine a non-abusive work situation? All these questions are serious. When so many intelligent people I respect tell that my analogy is right, it seems like something has gone deeply wrong. What is it, and how can it be fixed? Your thoughts, please.

--UPDATE, after reading "On Being Sane in Insane Places"--
The link is unfortunately not particularly relevant to this whole screed. The only possible thing of interest is the fact that all the inmates could tell when people were actually sane. And I do recall meeting people whose attitude towards works was one of pride about their work, but a detachment WRT their environment and they seemed to have exactly found the Zen of caring and not caring that would allow them to leave a sinking ship. I recall being almost shocked at their attitudes, in part because the sort of fealty and loyalty I had always associated with being a "good worker" was completely not present. They were proud of their work, friendly to their colleagues, but their well-being was NOT inextricably linked to the organization's. And I could pick out who these people were VERY quickly. Perhaps those people truly were sane in an insane place.

obligatory dissenting voice

Date: 2006-05-08 06:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] crimmycat.livejournal.com
My work is not abusive - I do not find it to be an inherent power imbalance. They pay a good chunk of money, not only in wages but 401K, medical, and taxes, to lure me to work there. In return, I give them the expertise and human element they hired me to be. I do not have to have this job, and I am not trapped here - hell, I acidentally fell into an interview last week. Living frugally, I have quite a lot of time to not need a job in the bank.

I am not a wage-slave; I am more like a cat that is a good mouser. Keep giving me warmth, shelter, food, and praise, and I'll keep purring at you and killing your mice. Kick me, and I might come back once - but I'm no dog, and I'll leave if I want to. For this cat, the door's always open. I am very clear about this, and my boss is very clear that he understands he'll be in a world of hurt if I go. I wouldn't do anything bad - his pain would be self-inflicted by having to deal with all my workload, responsibilities, and systems until he found someone as competant as me.

I'm not a total bitch; when I leave a job, I make sure to leave a trained kitten, already housebroken, behind me who'll grow into all my duties. It leaves fond memories, good references, and the option of coming back higher up the food chain.

To be in an abusive relationship, you have to be willing to play the part of the abused. I'm not. So I like my job, the pay and the bennies are great, the people amuse me, the work is all right, and I find my self-esteem defined and fulfilled by the things I do outside of work, instead of at it.

Re: obligatory dissenting voice

Date: 2006-05-09 03:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] lunaetstellae.livejournal.com
"I find my self-esteem defined and fulfilled by the things I do outside of work, instead of at it. "

Well said. To me, this is the key....

Re: obligatory dissenting voice

Date: 2006-05-09 06:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] crimmycat.livejournal.com
I find defining self-esteem to be one half of the Zen of avoiding abusive work relationships. It is indeed a very important thing. When you draw your self-esteem from within, seek wisdom, knowledge, and grace as your goals, and have long range goals that are not dependant on the approval of those around you, the feelings and attempts of those around will not have much access or room to impact your heart and soul.

The other half is this: you cannot be in an abusive relationship if you will not let yourself be abused. I have worked in work environments where, were I willing to be cowed by those who believe they are the queens of the office and batted around by the system, I would have been knocked about. Instead, I am the captain of my fate: the people in any work environment will either love me, like me, or fear me, but they will respect me, and they will not be able to be effective in blocking my way.

This does involve picking up the sword and taking the offensive on political battles, knowing my rights and learning people, but it's a worthy fight when it gets the job done and converts the unhelpfull into allies, or at least neutralized.

Profile

pmb: (Default)
pmb

October 2009

S M T W T F S
    1 23
45678910
11121314151617
18192021222324
25262728293031

Most Popular Tags

Style Credit

Expand Cut Tags

No cut tags
Page generated Jan. 17th, 2026 07:53 am
Powered by Dreamwidth Studios